The Power of Community, Find your Tribe
Last week, I spoke of a friend of mine that was doing great things with her photography. Over the many conversations we have had together, we talk about community most I think. A community is such an important part of the journey to becoming a location independent entrepreneur. As a way to celebrate my own community, I wanted to support a friend. I asked that Tristanne write a guest post on the subject of the power of community for my readers.
Making Connections with Like-Minded Souls
For as long as I can remember, I used to tell myself, “If you want it done right, you gotta do it yourself.” After being disappointed by so many throughout my life, I started to give up on community. I grew up thinking for myself and taking care of my younger siblings on my own terms. Because of this, I never thought to ask the advice of others with fear that they might steer me down the wrong path, not knowing that they really had good intentions and wanted me to succeed in life. I think it’s important to be true to yourself and do things on your own terms, but earlier this year I realized how equally important it is to have a community of like-minded souls to support you in your endeavors, especially when you find yourself in times of doubt.
Let’s start from the revelation. Earlier this year, I went through a breakup that made all my previous breakups seem nonsensical. Throughout our relationship, he taught me many things and among those things was to think more of what I wanted my life to be. In the event of this breakup, I didn’t want to go into a place where I regressed. No, I didn’t want that. I knew that I wanted to share my life with this man, but there was a lot more that I needed to realize for myself. I wanted a life of significance, a life of purpose. Unintentionally, this guy helped me shine a light on those dark corners of my life that I’ve forgotten. Now that those passions have come to light, how was I going to make this forward movement in my new revelation?
How to Find Work You Love
Still in my “do it yourself” mindset, I started looking up TED Talks that could help me in “finding my passion” and “doing work I love to do” to make for a more fulfilling life. I found many speeches on the subject. I once stumbled across someone who had a 67-step program I thought might be able to help me hone in. Needless to say, his program didn’t help me the way that I needed and they were charging me a monthly “membership fee” that I didn’t feel was worth spending. I just wasn’t for me. But, that’s the nature of the journey. You try out different things to find what works for you.
Among the many TED Talks I watched, one of them really resonated with me. It was titled “Scott Dinsmore: How to find work you love”. Scott began:
Eight years ago, I got the worst career advice I’ve ever had in my life. I had a friend tell me, “Scott, don’t worry about how much you like the work you’re doing right now. It’s all about just building your resume.”
It’s how I was thinking this whole time….trying to build my resume with work I thought was going to bring me abundance in the real world according to society’s standards. But I was not doing work that fulfilled me as it turned out. If I was going to live without the love of my life, I was going to fall in love with myself and replace that sadness by doing work that I love to do. I continued to watch Scott’s video.
Scott and his wife Chelsea started a revolution. They found more people who thought like them, people who desired to do work that they loved. Also, they found people who were already doing work that they loved. They built a community of passionate and giving souls with the purpose of helping each other find and do work that they love. (To read more on what Scott began, go here.) Their community was called Live Your Legend.
How Live Your Legend is a perfect community to start with.
I was hesitant in joining another “community” as most of them asked for money and I haven’t found one I was truly connected with or I found to be
worth the time and money. At this point, I wasn’t going to spend any more money on something I wasn’t sure was going to be worth it for me. I guess you could say I was going into it with an open, but cautious mind. I went to their website, signed up for their newsletter and got their Free Toolkit.
Slowly, as I read the blog posts and worked the workbooks and challenges I got in my inbox, I was seeing the value that Live Your Legend provided in my self-discovery. But that was just it, up to this point, I was doing most of it by myself. I was seeing small growth, but I still felt a little lost, so I decided to reach out. When I sent a message to Chelsea, it rapidly grew from there. I was astonished!
There is a lot I’ve learned by reaching out. I’ve compiled a short list of valuable lessons for you…
You will be surprised by the goodness of humanity.
Being a part of the Live Your Legend community has rebuilt my faith in humanity. I wasn’t always trusting of those I meet, let alone those I meet online. They always seemed to be selling you something. “What’s in it for them?” was always the line the small voice in my head gave me.
After joining the Live Your Legend – Action & Accountability FB Group (as mentioned in the “21 Days to Discovering Your Passion” course), I started to learn about what community really is. Accountability is HUGE when it comes to achieving your goals. When you have people in the same program as you, you keep each other accountable. No one is out for themselves.
Every small step I made into belonging with this community was a result of the unselfish giving of each member. Being able to share and be vulnerable with these people started to become more and easier. When you give of yourself, helping others with their questions or supporting them in their endeavors, the sentiment is soon reciprocated. When you’re honest with yourself and true to your heart, people really see that and are genuinely excited for your success. They give without any expectations. It’s really what makes belonging to this community different from other communities I’ve experienced being in.
You continue to make connections with people.
My first connection with Chelsea is as follows:
It was my attempt to connect with the members of the LYL Action & Accountable FB Group. Chelsea commented on my post consequently connecting me to Stephanie Rogers, an amazing soul with a penchant for helping people connect to their passion and doing work they love. This connection began a domino effect in connecting with my friends all over the world! The more I reached out to members, opportunities to connect with people who have something to offer to my journey arose. The connection to my current mentor originated from being a part of the LYL community.
You also have something to offer others! You start to share what you’re up to, what you’re passionate about or what your goals are, someone out there is seeking your knowledge, too! I’ve connected with people who are interested in my UBER driving experience and people who are just as into photography and the outdoors as I am and have been asked about my hiking adventures!
Everyone is at various levels in their journeys. Some well into years of developing their passions and living more into the life they want, some just starting out and still trying to figure it out. It’s comforting to know you’re not alone in your journey and that there are people who can help you, people you can help and people who are in the same boat as you.
You learn new things about yourself.
For me, LYL, the community and the people you consequently meet have a way of asking me the right questions. The questions I never thought to ask myself had I continued on this journey on my own. When you connect with other people, you can discover a different perspective on questions that you may never have come up with before.
I’m not going to lie, asking yourself these questions will take you down a scary road. You will be challenged, you will cry, and you will laugh. You’re going to be pleasantly surprised. You may not like what you discover about yourself. You will learn to be ok with that. Bottom line: you’re going to love yourself and continue to love yourself the more you continue to go on this journey. I only hope you take on this challenge head on. You will NOT regret it. I promise.
You will find that not everyone has the same goals as you…and that’s ok!
In a community of like-minded people, you can find that not everyone is on the same thought level as you, learns the same way you do, processes information the same way you do or has the same goals as you do. But that’s completely ok! It’s not that they are not excited for your success, it’s just that they either may not relate to your journey OR what they have to offer the community may not resonate with you.
Same goes the other way around. Most members of the community have a specific journey for themselves. Not all of them will benefit from your knowledge. It’s the beauty of being in a community. You will find a special few who you will make that strong connection with.
I used to think that I could help everyone, but that is just not the case. I’m not meant to touch everyone’s lives. But, if I could live this life knowing I’ve helped at least one person, I can say I’ve lived a meaningful life.
There you go. The most valuable lessons I’ve learned (so far) in being a part of a community I feel like I belong in. No matter what community you find, you will find your people. I believe that when you find your community, you become part of a greater community known as the entire world. The connections you make within your community will bleed into other communities which then connects us all. Know that you are not alone in your journey and all it takes is simple reaching out.